So what is intimacy and who says so? I’ve recently spent time asking myself this question in an attempt to understand my meaning of intimacy.
There was a time in my life that I thought being intimate only meant being sexual. Am I alone in this thinking? Certainly being sexual with someone is an intimate act and I have since discovered that it is not the only way to be intimate.
Over the last few years I have experienced intimacy by holding a hand, in stroking a face and from looking deeply into a person’s eyes. It is said that the eyes are the windows to the soul. And what I was amazed to discover is that I shared this intimacy with people I was not in a romantic relationship with. This was a connection at a very different level.
At this same time I noticed feelings of intimacy when sharing conversation with people, particularly when we shared very personal information. When someone shares their heart with me I feel they trust me with their life. And I feel the same when I share the secrets of my heart with another person. The depth of trust and connection has this be a very intimate moment for me.
In my life right now I am exploring how to be intimate and connect at a deeper level with me. This means being more open and honest with myself when my heart is talking. By listening deeply to my heart I am learning how to nurture and love myself as I have never done before. Such a powerful process!
So in my journey of exploring intimacy I have discovered the person I need to be most intimate with is me. I am my own life partner and the person responsible for filling me with love. I have discovered that intimacy really is Into Me I See.
What is intimacy for you?